How couples can achieve more fairness in their household finances

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The successful financial partnerships involve more than the simple division of money – they need equality of financial knowledge and decision -making.

“What I strive is to create equity and equality within households with regard to finances and money,” said Doug Bonearth, president and founder of Bone Fide Wealth, in A recent episode of Decoding withdrawn (see the video above or listen to below). “What we are looking for here is that everyone knows at least where your assets are, knowing which income is generated, having an idea of ​​household expenditure, both having access to accounts.”

Bonearth and his wife are writing “Money together” A book that will help couples have significant and productive financial conversations.

Rather than offering advice on joint accounts, they aim to help couples navigate five crucial areas of financial partnership: financial education, past money errors, care responsibilities, power dynamics and power and power Risk tolerance.

In the end, healthier conversations on money lead to stronger relationships, happier families and better results for all those involved, Boneparth said.

“Money is one of these games; It never ends, “he said. “You play all your life and it changes constantly and evolves constantly, right?” It’s delicate.

In the podcast, Boneparth stressed that if it is good for a partner to manage daily finances, the two partners must be actively involved to achieve financial equality in a relationship. This includes knowledge of the location of all accounts, having shared access to financial applications and accounts, to perform regular checks to examine net and objectives, and understand both the quantitative aspects and qualitatives of money management.

“There is no good or bad way with regard to the division of labor,” he said. “But it would be completely unacceptable to [my wife] In order not to know where the accounts are, where they are located, how to access it, what our net value looks like, what the expenses look like. “”

Bonearth said that he and his wife sit down to review the finances on a quarterly basis.

“We go through the net value, we examine how we do, and we actually have a real conversation around what is happening behind these figures,” he said. “The figures tell you only the story. And what are our goals? What have we done well this year? Do we feel free to spend? “”

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These conversations are important because it is rewarding to strive through objectives. In addition, not arriving on the same wavelength regarding financial issues could endanger your relationship.

“It is almost a cliché at this point to say that most relationships do not work due to something financially linked,” said Boneparth. “If this is the biggest problem in the long -term success of relationships, we should approach this.”

To help couples start, Boneparth offered some tips for couples to strengthen more solid financial teamwork thanks to understanding and communication.

• Make sure that the two partners have full access to all financial accounts and applications, no matter who manages daily money management.

• Plan regular financial checks to examine net value and expenses. Bonearth recommended that this trimester do.

• During these meetings, discuss both quantitative and qualitative aspects of your finances. This means talking about both figures and feelings around your money and goals.

• Create equality in your financial knowledge – both partners should know:

  • Where all the accounts are.

  • How much income is generated.

  • What does household expenses look like.

  • How to access all financial information.

• Remember that the financial task division is good, but the two partners need visibility and complete understanding of the overall financial situation.

Bonearth also noted that shared resources can help couples follow household finances together. For example, the use of shared financial applications and online tools creates transparency. Also plan to work with a financial advisor to establish a framework for money discussions.

“By obtaining participation in the household around this, we really increase the probability that you reach your goals together,” he said. “It’s a team game you play.”

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